Quiet Quitting: doing the
In marriage, Quiet Quitting erodes
“I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me.” —Song of Solomon 7.10
God created marriage as a place for intimacy—where spouses are fully
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” —Genesis 2.24-25
Intimacy is
Barriers to Intimacy
- Busyness & Kids
- Lack of Safety & Security
- Selfishness
God’s plan is for
“The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’” —Genesis 2.18
Soulmates aren’t
Four Commitments to Building Intimacy
- Commit to marriage as a
- Commit to
- Commit to
- Commit to
“To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.”
“‘Haven’t you read,” He replied, ‘that at the beginning the Creator “made them male and female” and said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh”? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.’” —Jesus, Matthew 19.4-6
“Now the man knew his wife Eve, and she conceived…” —Genesis 4.1
“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord…Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her…” —Paul, Ephesians 5.21-22, 25
“Marriage creates a situation in which our desire to be served and coddled can be replaced with a more noble desire to serve others—even to sacrifice for others. This is a call for both husbands and wives. The beauty of marriage is that it confronts our selfishness and demands our service 24-hours a day. When we’re most tired, most worn down, and feeling more sorry for ourselves than we ever have before, we have the opportunity to confront our feelings of self-pity by getting up and serving our mate.” —Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage
“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.” —James 5.16
“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” —Colossians 3.13
“Love keeps no record of wrongs.” —1st Corinthians 13.5
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” —1st Corinthians 13.4-8