When Jesus saw him lying there and knew that he had been there a long time, he said to him, “Do you want to be made well?” The sick man answered him, “Sir, I have no one to put me into the pool when the water is stirred up; and while I am making my way, someone else steps down ahead of me.” Jesus said to him, “Stand up, take your mat and walk.” At once the man was made well, and he took up his mat and began to walk. —John 5:6-9a

This sermon series is for

families in the everyday struggles we all face.

Week 1 – Bonding: The first, most fundamental need is forming deep and loving

.

Week 2 – Boundaries: We need both attachment and

.

A boundary is what

one person from another.

Week 3 – Achieving Adulthood: Healthy adults

good questions,

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honestly, and

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accordingly.

We all carry

patterns, thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors from our families of origin.

Unless we do the work of becoming healthy, our family patterns will continue to

our most important relationships.

“It’s impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature.” —Peter Scazzero

Resisting Healing

While we want to be healthier, we often

.

Why?

1. It’s
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2. It can feel
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   feels safer.
4. Emotional work is difficult to
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   .

Recovery from family wounds is a

process that requires difficult work.

Healing is part of what it means to receive

.

How Jesus Healed (John 5:6-9a)

There was a man who had been sick for

lying at the pool of Bethsaida.

Sometimes we would rather

sick than face what it might take to become well.

Healing requires our

.

God’s grace invites our

.

The man did not give Jesus a

answer.

Jesus invited the man to

in his own healing.

God does for us what we

do, but will not do for us what we

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do.

Jesus offers us healing and invites us to “get up and

.”

Lessons from Gethsemane (Matthew 26:36-46)

In the Garden of Gethsemane, Jesus faced the

that awaited him on the cross.

He sets an

for how we can face past hurts.

1. Jesus did not
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   his feelings.
2. Jesus
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   for help.
3. Jesus did the work in
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   and prayerfully.
4. Jesus took
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   at the right time.

Jesus gives us

and guidance as we do the work of becoming healthy.

“Recovery from a hurtful family past is never easy, but it is always good. And though it may seem at times to be impossibly difficult, God is there for those who want to do it right, in His strength, in His power, and under His care, guidance, and healing hand.” —Dave Carder

Action Steps

1. Today, reach out to
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2. Ask God, “How are you calling me to take up my mat and walk?”
3. Take a
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   .

“I pray that, according to the riches of his glory, he may grant that you may be strengthened in your inner being with power through his Spirit, and that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith, as you are being rooted and grounded in love. I pray that you may have the power to comprehend, with all the saints, what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, so that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.” —Ephesians 3:16-19