My Way Or The Highway

Introduction

Big Idea: It’s better to

boys and girls rather than

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men and women

Two Major Parenting Spectrums

24 Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them. —Proverbs 13:24 (NLT)

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- the ability to

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your child’s

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or

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- the ability to

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with your child’s

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Four Parenting Styles

Authoritative Parenting = Strong Control + High Compassion
Authoritarian Parenting = Strong Control + Low Compassion
Acquiescence Parenting = Weak Control + High Compassion
Absentee Parenting = Weak Control + Low Compassion

The Authoritarian Parents

21 Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged. —Colossians 3:21 (NLT)

Authoritarian Parents Unintentionally Fosters

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Building

1 Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. 2 “Honor your father and mother.” This is the first commandment with a promise: 3 If you honor your father and mother, “things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth.”
4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. —Ephesians 6:1-4 (NLT)

Advice For Authoritarian Parents:

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and

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with your children

2.

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Over Growth

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Advice For Authoritarian Parents:

Give your children the “

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3. Outward

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Over Inward

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8 ‘These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. —Matthew 15:8 (NLT)

Advice For Authoritarian Parents:

Ask yourself: What’s it like being on the other

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A Biblical Case Study Of Authoritarian Parenting

30 Saul boiled with rage at Jonathan. “You stupid son of a whore!” he swore at him. “Do you think I don’t know that you want him to be king in your place, shaming yourself and your mother? —1 Samuel 20:30 (NLT)

Children Of Authoritarian Parents Have The Tendency To:

1. Lack

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   Issues

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Conclusion

18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. 19 We love, because He first loved us.
—1 John 4:18-19 (NASB)

Take Action:

1. Listen to your children.
2. Give your children the “why”.
3. Ask yourself: What’s it like being on the other side of me?

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