Big Idea

Drink water from your own cistern,
flowing water from your own well.

Should your springs be scattered abroad,
streams of water in the streets?

Let them be for yourself alone,
and not for strangers with you.
Proverbs 5:15-17

We must all honor and fight for marriage, in part because there are few things Satan attacks more actively.

Ice Breaker

We have all had some life giving relationships, and some relationships which were quite damaging.

At the core of healthy, life giving relationships is trust. Share about a relationship where there was trust and openness. What was it about that person, that relationship, that brought life? What made it safe for you to be vulnerable?

Next Step

Discuss :: What stage is your marriage in: Delight, Pain, Fruit, or Joy?

Do :: What is a trust-building step you can take?

Additional Discussion Questions

How open are you to feedback in your marriage? If you are single, talk about your closest relationships.
Discuss some qualities in relationship that cultivate trust.
For you personally, which of the four horseman typically block being open to feedback?
- Defensiveness.
- Stonewalling–directly or indirectly saying, “I don’t want to talk about it.”
- Criticalness.
- Contempt.
Take some time to think about why this is. We all bring our own story, so it could be personal feelings of insecurity, your own personal resistance to being vulnerable, or something else.
After spending some time with the question above, shift your thinking to your relationship with Christ. It’s easy to be hesitant when opening your heart to Him, almost like your sin is the first thing that catches His attention, but that is not true.
Jesus is serious about our sin, but He is also serious about inviting us to rest in his delight over us.

Imagine Christ thinking of you with delight. How would this impact your ability to relax with Jesus in an open, trusting relationship?