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Message Notes:

1 Cause of Divorce: Lack of Commitment — 75%

“I realized it was the lack of commitment on my part because I didn’t really feel romantic towards him. I always had felt more still like he was a friend to me.”

“It became insurmountable. It got to a point where it seemed like he was no longer really willing to work [on the relationship]. All of the stresses together and then what seemed to me to be an unwillingness to work through it any longer was the last straw for me.”

The dominant religion of mankind is the WORSHIP OF SELF.

(Arnold Toynbee)

LOVE is a choice, NOT an emotion.

Main Idea

To Death Do Us Part starts with choosing COMMITMENT OVER SELFISHNESS. Choosing EVERYDAY to love and cherish our spouse.

10 Commitment Guardrails to keep Selfishness in Check:

1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Biblical Picture of Love & Commitment
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 8Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages Or in tongues. and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever.

1. Don’t Let Anger Control You

Ephesians 5:33
“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” ‭NIV

2. Sex/Intimacy is not a weapon or tool to get what you want…


3. When voices get loud, conversation goes on pause


4. Be your spouse’s biggest fan


5. Once is forgiven, you can’t bring it back up…


6. Ask before your share


7. Keep stuff in the house before taking it out of the house


8. Give love in the way your spouse receives it


9. Do not playing with word Divorce

Proverbs 18:21
The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences. NLT

10. Respect the vulnerabilities

Main Idea

To Death Do Us Part starts with choosing COMMITMENT OVER SELFISHNESS. Choosing EVERYDAY to love and cherish our spouse.

Challenge Question:

How well are you doing at pointing your spouse (or anyone you are close with) to God? What are some guard rails you can start to implement to keep yourself in check?

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