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Message Notes:
The Goal of This Series:
To create a triangle with Jesus at the highest point.
Infidelity
20%-40% cause of divorce in 2021
Infidelity = The act or state of being unfaithful. Breaking a promise of commitment to forsake all others.
Standard Marriage Vows:
For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health.
Holding ONLY unto you from this day forward, until death do us part.
What is God’s Answer?
Exclusivity
Exclusivity = The practice of excluding or not admitting other outside things. Restricted to a particular person or area.
Mark 10:6-9
Jesus replied. 6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’[a] 7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,[b] 8 and the two will become one flesh.’[c] So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” NIV
Hebrews 13:4
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral (pornos). NIV
Proverbs 5:15-23
15 Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. 16 Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? 17 Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. 18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. 20 Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife? Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman? 21 For your ways are in full view of the Lord, and he examines all your paths. 22 The evil deeds of the wicked ensnare them; the cords of their sins hold them fast. 23 For lack of discipline they will die, led astray by their own great folly. NIV
Violations of Exclusivity:
1. ANY TYPE of sexual activity with anyone other than your spouse in a covenant marriage relationship.
2. Bringing in anything from the outside to your marriage bed…
3. Inappropriate Conversations (including text, email, etc.)
4. Pornography
BIG STATEMENT:
MUTUAL CONSENT does not replace EXCLUSIVITY
God’s Answer to infidelity:
Exclusivity
If someone has been unfaithful to you…
1. It is ok to hurt … and to put up guardrails.
2. Let God help you with the healing and forgiving process.
3. Do everything you can to save your marriage before you run to divorce as an option.
The only exceptions the Bible seems to make for divorce are:
*Adultery* (Matthew 19:9), Abuse (Exodus 21:10-11), or Abandonment (1 Corinthians 7:14-15)
If you have been the one who has been unfaithful…
1. Recognize the gravity of what you have done.
2. Get to the root of why you cheated in the first place.
3. Turn to God to let Him help you.
Being Exclusive DOES NOT mean boring.
Song of Solomon 7:1-9
(husband/wife)
How beautiful your sandaled feet, O prince’s daughter! Your graceful legs are like jewels, the work of an artist’s hands. 2 Your navel is a rounded goblet that never lacks blended wine….Vs. 3 Your breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle…Vs. 7 Your stature is like that of the palm, and your breasts like clusters of fruit. 8 I said, “I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.” May your breasts be like clusters of grapes on the vine, the fragrance of your breath like apples, 9 and your mouth like the best wine. NIV
Song of Solomon 4:16
16 Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread everywhere. Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits. NIV
CHALLENGE QUESTION:
Gods answer is exclusivity physically AND emotionally.
What are some areas of your marriage you need to guard more exclusively?
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