30 Day Marriage Devotional - Back to Eden
HABITS, ROUTINES, SYSTEMS
Part of Back to Eden - A 30 Day Marriage Devotional—Day 1 - 30
May 28, 2022

Monday, MAY 30, 2022

Day 29

HABITS, ROUTINES, SYSTEMS

“For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. A time to be born and a time to die. A time to plant and a time to harvest. A time to kill and a time to heal. A time to tear down and a time to build up. A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance. A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones. A time to embrace and a time to turn away. A time to search and a time to quit searching. A time to keep and a time to throw away. A time to tear and a time to mend. A time to be quiet and a time to speak. A time to love and a time to hate. A time for war and a time for peace.” —Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 NLT

You do not rise to the level of your goals, You fall to the level of your systems. Your goal is your desired outcome. Your system is the collection of daily habits that will get you there.
James Clear, Atomic Habits.

If you have been doing the work over the past few weeks, whether in thought or theory, you are sure to have lofty goals for the state of marriage. Did you know that the overall state of your marriage is a total sum of the little things your do each and every day. Think of your thoughts, words and deeds as little deposits or withdrawals on your marriage.

Is your marriage living on the compound interest of abundance from consistent daily deposits or is it borrowing time on the overdrawn debt of neglect and abuse?

Only you know the answer and your habits must reflect your decision. For example.

If you want a more loving union, consider daily kisses upon greeting and leaving. Be genuinely complimentary to and about your spouse. Use unsexual touch often. Hugs, back rubs…etc. Flirt with each other.

If you want an honest union, Create agreed boundaries and check in often on maintenance of the same. Talk often and honestly with love and respect about whatever is threading the sanctity of the marriage in any area. Be open and emotionally calm to hearing truth with a decision to work through it.

If you want a fun union, schedule fun spontaneous time. Make a wish list of all the things that are wins for you to achieve and take turns planning an item off that list.

If you want a more sexual union, create a balance of work or outsource functions that may tire either party out so that there is energy left for the bedroom. Become a more loving union.

If you want a union that has more time for you to spend with your spouse, practice time management, consult your spouse before taking on roles outside the home. Block on untouchable time and hold that sacred unless you mutually agree to change.

There are so much more ways to create the habits you would need to achieve the goals for your marriage, but you have to create the environments for these habits to stick.

Prayer

Thank you Lord that you are not only creative and intentional, but also strategic and systematic. Give us divine wisdom to create new habits and environments to support the marriage we seek to have in You and with each other. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Reflection

  1. Call a marriage board meeting with your spouse. Set a plan for the changes that you would like to see happen over the next 30-60-90 to 365 days. Address all the areas
  2. Create a vision board for your marriage. This can be done digitally or old fashioned, whatever floats your boat. Have it in a place that you can both see it often to remind you what you are working towards.
  3. Using your newly created vision board, create the habits required to bring that vision to life.