The Gloves Are Off Group Guide
January 16, 2022

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Are you someone who has to get every last drop out of a bottle? Or can you leave a bit of shampoo or ketchup or toothpaste in the container?

View the After Party Video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O6Xlz8f3YUs

Discuss and Apply

1) What does it mean to say the last 10%? Can you think of specific examples of it? How can saying the last 10% improve a relationship? Why is it so hard to do?

2) Scotty talked about the three fear responses we have to stress or conflict: Fight, Flight, or Freeze. Which one to you tend toward?

Now think about one of your relationships. What do you see as that person’s tendency? How can that information help when you are in conflict?

3) What tool has God given to us that can help overcome our fear of conflict? See 2 Timothy 1:7.

4) Why is working through conflict important to God?

Read 2 Corinthians 5:18-20a (below).

All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us.

How might our willingness to seek reconciliation with others affect the way unbelievers think about God?

5) Think about one of your relationships that may have conflict. Is there something you need to do to move toward reconciliation? Do you need to go to them? Do you need to say the last 10%? Do you need to seek counsel? Share a commitment to do that with your group.

Pray

Pray for each other in the area of your relationships and for any specific requests.

Submit a Question

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Sermon Points

Healthy relationships aren’t built on your ability to avoid problems but your willingness to resolve conflict

True reconciliation is a supernatural act that requires supernatural power