“Building Healthy Fences In Your Family Relationships”
Family Matters Series
Pastor Ed Carlson
9/25/22
The real cause of dysfunction in our families is the entrance of sin into the human race.
- God is always
- God is always
- God is always
1 Corinthians 15:33 (ESV)
33 Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
Spend too much time around the
- Chronic
(These are the people who find fault with everything.)
Exodus 16:2-3 (ESV)
2 And the whole congregation of the people of Israel grumbled against Moses and Aaron in the wilderness, 3 and the people of Israel said to them, “Would that we had died by the hand of the Lord in the land of Egypt, when we sat by the meat pots and ate bread to the full, for you have brought us out into this wilderness to kill this whole assembly with hunger.”
Exodus 17:1-3 (ESV)
1 All the congregation of the people of Israel moved on from the wilderness of Sin by stages, according to the commandment of the Lord, and camped at Rephidim, but there was no water for the people to drink. 2 Therefore the people quarreled with Moses and said, “Give us water to drink.” And Moses said to them, “Why do you quarrel with me? Why do you test the Lord?” 3 But the people thirsted there for water, and the people grumbled against Moses and said, “Why did you bring us up out of Egypt, to kill us and our children and our livestock with thirst?”
- Constant
(These are the people who want to control every aspect of our lives.)
1 Kings 19:13-18 (ESV)
13 And when Elijah heard it, he wrapped his face in his cloak and went out and stood at the entrance of the cave. And behold, there came a voice to him and said, “What are you doing here, Elijah?” 14 He said, “I have been very jealous for the LORD, the God of hosts. For the people of Israel have forsaken your covenant, thrown down your altars, and killed your prophets with the sword, and I, even I only, am left, and they seek my life, to take it away.” 15 And the LORD said to him, “Go, return on your way to the wilderness of Damascus. And when you arrive, you shall anoint Hazael to be king over Syria. 16 And Jehu the son of Nimshi you shall anoint to be king over Israel, and Elisha the son of Shaphat of Abel-meholah you shall anoint to be prophet in your place. 17 And the one who escapes from the sword of Hazael shall Jehu put to death, and the one who escapes from the sword of Jehu shall Elisha put to death. 18 Yet I will leave seven thousand in Israel, all the knees that have not bowed to Baal, and every mouth that has not kissed him.”
A “Jezebel” is fiercely independent and intensely ambitious for dominance and control
A “Jezebel” seems submissive or “servant-like,” but it is only for the sake of gaining some strategic advantage
A “Jezebel” likes to use the power and influence of others to accomplish their goals and control their environment
A “Jezebel” will remove their closeness of “friendship” if things are not done their way
The purpose of the spirit of Jezebel is to “divide and conquer”
Constant controllers can be toxic because they can pull us away from who God wants us to be, because it’s always about their agenda and not God’s.
- Tantalizing
(These are the people who encourage us to do those things we know we shouldn’t do.)
Psalm 26:4-12 (ESV)
4 I do not sit with men of falsehood, nor do I consort with hypocrites. 5 I hate the assembly of evildoers,
and I will not sit with the wicked. 6 I wash my hands in innocence and go around your altar, O Lord, 7 proclaiming thanksgiving aloud, and telling all your wondrous deeds. 8 O Lord, I love the habitation of your house and the place where your glory dwells. 9 Do not sweep my soul away with sinners, nor my life with bloodthirsty men, 10 in whose hands are evil devices, and whose right hands are full of bribes. 11 But as for me, I shall walk in my integrity; redeem me, and be gracious to me. 12 My foot stands on level ground; in the great assembly I will bless the Lord.
Matthew 16:21-23 (ESV)
21 From that time Jesus began to show his disciples that he must go to Jerusalem and suffer many things from the elders and chief priests and scribes, and be killed, and on the third day be raised. 22 And Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him, saying, “Far be it from you, Lord! This shall never happen to you.” 23 But he turned and said to Peter, “Get behind me, Satan! You are a hindrance to me. For you are not setting your mind on the things of God, but on the things of man.”
Sometimes we have to establish
While many people