INTRODUCTION

In this message series we are talking about the onslaught of information, stimulus, and noise demanding our attention. John Eldridge wrote, “We’ve been sucked into a pace of life nobody’s enjoying.” We have contemplated the quality of our personal union with God, noticing the specific ways Jesus is drawing us to Himself, and evaluating the choices (trades) we are making to affect the quality of our lives. Last week we were challenged to take some courageous and uncomfortable steps towards our own pain and to “make room” for Jesus to meet us in those places. This week we will consider the health of our closest relationships and steps we can take to grow closer to those who matter most to us.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

1. Have you ever wanted to grab someone’s chin, turn their face towards yours, and say, “Look at me.” Do you think there are people who would like to do the same with you? What do others need to do to gain your undivided attention?
2. “Showing up is half the work.” Being face to face with another person is unfortunately becoming increasingly rare. What were some specific details that caused you to feel valued and important in a recent conversation with someone? Do naturally make others feel valued and prioritized?
3. Our level of focus shows how much (or little) we value who is in front of us. On average how attentive and present are you when talking to another person (0-100)? Name one or two adjustments you could make to become more present in conversations.
4. Do you more naturally want to correct wrong behaviors or would you rather learn the reasons behind the behavior? Which of those options is quicker? Which one yields trust, understanding, intimacy, and, quite possibly even future changed behavior? Relationships take sacrifice, time, selflessness, effort, and commitment.
5. “God…comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.” How has God met you in deep, meaningful, life-changing ways? He wants to help us have those kind of moments with those we love. We must be sensitive and willing to learn to do all we can to optimize opportunities for those kind of connections. Who are some people you really want to connect with in a deeper way? What are one or two specific adjustments you can make to how you connect with them that might yield an improved connection?

MOVING FORWARD

This is our fifth week of very specific and relevant challenges to slow down and start getting our lives back. We were all created for relationships- with God first and then with each other. Our very real enemy works arduously and effectively to snake into our relationship with God and he also slithers into our relationships with each other. God wants to help! Lean in to learn from how the Lord patiently and consistently pursues you, listens to you, and gently guides you. Be inspired and led by His relationship with you to guide you toward some steps to improve your relationships. Don’t try to overhaul your relationships. Be led to take one, new step and then the next step. While you are leaning in to Jesus for His instructions you will be growing closer to Him while also growing closer to your loved ones.