Ephesians 4:26-27 KJV
v26 - Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
v27 - Neither give place to the devil.

4 “Don’ts” when dealing with Anger:
1. Don’t deny your anger (Eph. 4:26)

5 Denial Dynamics:
1. Anger internalized becomes wrath that is verbalized.
2. Deal with issues as they come up not as they mount up … or they will become insurmountable
3. Both good and bad marriages have anger. Good marriages process it correctly … it comes in but goes out. In bad marriages it comes in and builds up.
4. Many times children of divorce have a harder time navigating conflict well. People do what people see.
5. Every time parents deal with conflict, you are training your children … positively or negatively. Children do what children see.

4 “Don’ts” when dealing with Anger:
1. Don’t deny your anger (Eph. 4:26)
2. Don’t justify your sin because you are angry. (Eph. 4:26)

Life Point:
Never let your spouse’s bad behavior justify your unrighteous anger.

4 “Don’ts” when dealing with Anger:
1. Don’t deny your anger (Eph. 4:26)
2. Don’t justify your sin because you are angry. (Eph. 4:26)
3. Don’t go to bed angry (Eph. 4:26)

5 Sleeping on your anger aspects:
1. Many couples fall out of love because they fall into bed with anger.
2. Today’s anger can be dealt with. Yesterday’s anger can be dangerous.
3. Cumulative anger is concerning!
4. If you can’t settle it before you go to bed, make an appointment to settle it the next day!
5. If your spouse won’t settle it, you devil-proof your heart by forgiving before you go to bed.

4 “Don’ts” when dealing with Anger:
1. Don’t deny your anger (Eph. 4:26)
2. Don’t justify your sin because you are angry. (Eph. 4:26)
3. Don’t go to bed angry (Eph. 4:26)
4. Don’t give the devil ground (Eph. 4:27)

2 Ground Guarantees:
1. If you have frequently gone to bed angry, you are giving the devil an opportunity to slander your spouse all night long.
2. This is where the enemy paints your spouse’s portrait with the unfair brush of offense.

4 Resolutions to Resolving Conflict:
1. “Carefrontation” in a positive manner (Prov. 15:1)

2 “Carefrontation” Concepts:
1. Conversations rarely rise above the tone of the first three minutes.
2. Make a decision you are not going to be your parents one more day!

4 Resolutions to Resolving Conflict:
1. “Carefrontation” in a positive manner (Prov. 15:1)
2. Communicate don’t criticize

Life Point:
Criticism is all about accusation. Communication is all about resolution.

4 Resolutions to Resolving Conflict:
1. “Carefrontation” in a positive manner (Prov. 15:1)
2. Communicate don’t criticize
3. Listen to your spouse (James 1:19)

Life Point:
Don’t think about your response while he/she is talking. Listen from your heart.

4 Resolutions to Resolving Conflict:
1. “Carefrontation” in a positive manner (Prov. 15:1)
2. Communicate don’t criticize
3. Listen to your spouse (James 1:19)
4. Forgive them (Matt. 5:44)

2 Forgiveness Facets:
1. If you continue to punish them for it … you haven’t forgiven them.
2. Forgive fully, finally and freely.

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