Saturday, MAY 28, 2022

Day 27

LET’S MAKE WHOOPEE

“For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.” —Ephesians 5:22-24 NLT

After yesterday’s devotional, I know that the men are up in arms about their responsibility in the marriage relationship. We are all about equity here, and where the Bible goes we follow. Ladies, today is for you.

Submission tends to be a dirty word and while today we will not extol all the benefits of submission, (Attend the conference today to hear more about this freedom in person) We do want to highlight the marital bed.

A man’s appetite for sex is not merely a desire, it is a NEED. Men were created by God with a sexual rhythm and cycle that usually requires regular sexual intimacy with his wife. Because we are Bible believers we know that the physical expression of sexual intercourse is reserved for his one and only wife, the receiving of all this great love is YOU! Do you also know that the more frequent and regular your sex life, the less foothold the devil has in your marriage? Yes, God set up your physical union as a protection agency for your spiritual union.

Ladies, we do not want to you to have sex with your husband just because the Bible says so. No one ever likes to be in a position where they are receiving forced affection. We want you to enjoy your husband physically, expressing your love in a tangible manner on a bed that God says is undefiled.

Think about the struggle pre-marriage to stay away from each other when doing so is unpleasant and a down right sin to now where you have poetic, creative and physical license to get down.

If there are physical reasons causing you not to enjoy your husband, may I invite you to see a doctor about it. There are all manners of treatments/medications out there to help.

If there are emotional reasons, maybe past trauma or the like, seek the help of a therapist. There is nothing wrong with loving Jesus and going to a therapist. In fact when you are able to process all that is going on internally, and find solutions for those problems, it usually corrects more than just issues in the marriage bed.

If there are time/ structural issues, make time and schedule it on a calendar. We book all other appointments in life, book this one for sexy time with your husband. What we intentionally pursue, we build. Intentionally pursue your husbands need sexually.

If your husband has been asking for more sex than you are presently having, let it be a start of an open and honest conversation. Remember Killing the Snakes of Deception. Be willing to have the hard talks that propel the way forward to breakthrough.

If truthfully, you have non of the physical or emotional barriers and you just have not “felt” like it. I suggest you try a challenge, like 21 days of sex or something like that so that the body then responds in spite of feelings.

Prayer

Lord, thank you for the covenant of marriage and the gift of sexual intercourse as a way of uniting us as one. Re-ignite the passionate sexual desire for my husband, let me see him with a unquenched longing desire physically for now and the rest of our days. Help me to know and understand that submitting to him in everything is ultimately submission to You. In Jesus name. Amen.

Reflection:

1. Turn off the TV, put down the phone, and engage in passionate love making with your husband. Be genuinely present honestly complementary of him in and out of the bedroom.
2. Make space for this REGULARLY and OFTEN.