
“The human tendency is to believe anything that comforts, and deny what discomforts, so that unpleasant truths are simply ignored.”
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. —Ephesians 5:21 NIV
1. In our marriage, we need to mutually agree to
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” —Ephesians 5:31 NIV
2. In our marriage, we need to understand what affects
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. —Ephesians 5:33 NIV
3. In our marriage, we need to become
18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. —Colossians 3:18–19 NIV
4. Someone has to
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry… —Ephesians 4:26 NIV
5. In our marriage, we need to have the brutally honest conversation
“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. —Matthew 18:15 NIV
6. Keep the brutally honest conversation between the
But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ —Matthew 18:16 NIV
7. The brutally honest conversation may
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. —Hebrews 13:4 NIV
3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. —1 Corinthians 7:3–5 NIV
Brutally Honest Questions in Marriage:
1. How can I be a better husband/wife to you?
2. What do you need from me in this season of life?
3. If you could change one thing in our marriage, what would it be?
4. What are some things that we used to do that you would like to do again? What did you most enjoy about those things?
5. What things about our life together make you happy?
6. What was the last thing I did for you that you really enjoyed?
7. Which of our couple friends or acquaintances do you admire the most? What is it about their relationship that impresses you?
8. What makes us a good team? What could we do to be an even better team?
9. What would you like us to discuss but have been hesitant to bring up?
10. On a scale of 1 to 10, how am I doing as a husband or wife? What one thing could I do that would move that up a notch?