”The First Parenting Nightmare”
Home Improvement Series
AV First
Pastor Ed Carlson
4/28/24

Needs: These needs are the basics. The need for air, water, sleep, exercise, and food.

Needs: This is the need for praise, love, trust, security, feeling OK inside, and self-fulfilled.

Needs: This is the need for companionship and friendship. This is usually gained from a peer group. Learning what is needed to socially interact with those around them.

Needs: This is the need for challenging thoughts, reading, learning something new, and mind-stimulation.

Needs: This is the need to be connected to God. The realization that we were created, that we are limited in our ability, and the needed direction on how to experience God for ourselves and depend on Him for guidance.

Needs: This is the need to express yourself. This can include the arts, dancing, acting, and writing - almost anything that allows you to feel imaginative and inspired. Becoming who you were created to be.

Genesis 4:1-16 (CSB)
1 The man was intimate with his wife Eve, and she conceived and gave birth to Cain. She said, “I have had a male child with the LORD’s help.” 2 She also gave birth to his brother Abel. Now Abel became a shepherd of flocks, but Cain worked the ground. 3 In the course of time Cain presented some of the land’s produce as an offering to the LORD. 4 And Abel also presented an offering—some of the firstborn of his flock and their fat portions. The LORD had regard for Abel and his offering, 5 but he did not have regard for Cain and his offering. Cain was furious, and he looked despondent. 6 Then the LORD said to Cain, “Why are you furious? And why do you look despondent? 7 If you do what is right, won’t you be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at the door. Its desire is for you, but you must rule over it.” 8 Cain said to his brother Abel, “Let’s go out to the field.” And while they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him.
9 Then the LORD said to Cain, “Where is your brother Abel?” “I don’t know,” he replied. “Am I my brother’s guardian?” 10 Then he said, “What have you done? Your brother’s blood cries out to me from the ground! 11 So now you are cursed, alienated from the ground that opened its mouth to receive your brother’s blood you have shed. 12 If you work the ground, it will never again give you its yield. You will be a restless wanderer on the earth.” 13 But Cain answered the LORD, “My punishment is too great to bear! 14 Since you are banishing me today from the face of the earth, and I must hide from your presence and become a restless wanderer on the earth, whoever finds me will kill me.” 15 Then the LORD replied to him, “In that case whoever kills Cain will suffer vengeance seven times over.” And he placed a mark on Cain so that whoever found him would not kill him. 16 Then Cain went out from the LORD’s presence and lived in the land of Nod, east of Eden.

1. There is only one

, and you aren’t it.

2. God uses parenting to

us into who He created us to be.

1) Teaching our kids that God’s Way is always the best way is one of the greatest things we can do for our kids! Teach them through the Word, teach them through your experience, and teach them through life’s lessons.

2) Teach your kids that the condition of your heart determines the course of your life.

What is seen in our life

is a revelation of the

Reveal Answer

of our heart internally.

Deuteronomy 6:1 (CSB)
1 “This is the command—the statutes and ordinances—the LORD your God has commanded me to teach you, so that you may follow them in the land you are about to enter and possess.

Principle #1: Live your life and manage your family according to God’s

.

Deuteronomy 6:2 (CSB)
2 Do this so that you may fear the LORD your God all the days of your life by keeping all his statutes and commands I am giving you, your son, and your grandson, and so that you may have a long life.

Principle #2: Have a deep love, reverence, and respect for

so that your children can notice.

Deuteronomy 6:3 (CSB)
3 Listen, Israel, and be careful to follow them, so that you may prosper and multiply greatly, because the LORD, the God of your ancestors, has promised you a land flowing with milk and honey.

Principle #3: Help your family understand the great need for God’s

and

Reveal Answer

.

Deuteronomy 6:4-6 (CSB)
4 “Listen, Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. 5 Love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. 6 These words that I am giving you today are to be in your heart.

Principle #4: Don’t be

in your loyalties between God and the world.

Deuteronomy 6:7-9 (CSB)
7 Repeat them to your children. Talk about them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Bind them as a sign on your hand and let them be a symbol on your forehead. 9 Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your city gates.

Principle #5: Consistently Teach your children God’s

and make it part of your family’s everyday life.

Isaiah 55:10-11 (CSB)
10 For just as rain and snow fall from heaven
and do not return there
without saturating the earth
and making it germinate and sprout,
and providing seed to sow
and food to eat,
11 so my word that comes from my mouth
will not return to me empty,
but it will accomplish what I please
and will prosper in what I send it to do.”