Men, Stop Tearing Down The House
Ephesians 5:25-32, 1 Peter 3:1-7
Bad Connections
Dealing with interference in your relationships
FOUR PILLAR IN A WOMAN’S HEART
MARRIAGE FAMILY CHURCH COMMUNITY/NATION
Proverbs 31:22
DARKNESS DESIGNER DEGRADE TO BEAUTIFY Adorn & Enhance
Proverbs 31:16-20 PRODUCER SINGLE WOMEN
Genesis 2:18 DOMINATE HELPMATE DIMINISH TO PARTNER Support & Encourage
1 Thessalonians 2:7 DEPRIVE NURTURER DISCOURAGE TO DEVELOP Foster & Empower
Proverbs 27:9 DISENGAGE RELATER DISTANCE TO CONNECT Link & Comfort
10 ways HUSBANDS CREATE INSECURITY IN THEIR WIVES
BEING EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE
01 1 Peter 3:7
Being disengaged emotinally will leave a wife to feel alone in the relationship. Failing to recognize or validate her emotions will leave her feeling unheard and insignificant.
INSTEAD TRY THIS
Listen attentively respond with empathy and show affection through words and actions.
NEGLECTION TO PROVIDE OR PLAN FOR THE FUTURE
02 1 Timothy 5:8
If he spends impulsively avoids financial planning or ignores saving for emergencies, it communicates a lack of commitment to their long-term well-being.
INSTEAD TRY THIS
Set financial goals together and discuss long-term plans so she feels secure in your leadership and provision.
COMPARING HER TO OTHER WOMEN
03 Proverbs 5:18-19
Frequently admiring other women’s beauty, intelligence, or accomplishments while rarely affirming his wife will make her feel inadequate and unappreciated, questioning whether she is enough for him.
INSTEAD TRY THIS
Verbally affirm her regularly. Let her know she is enough for you and that you cherish her just as she is.
FAILING TO FOLLOW THROUGH ON PROMISES
04 Matthew 5:37
Breaking promises big or small-teaches her that his word can’t be trusted, creating anxiety about whether he will be dependable in more significant matters.
INSTEAD TRY THIS
Be a man of your word. If you commit, then follow through. If things change, communicate openly and honestly.
BEING HARSH WITH WORDS OR TONE
05 Colossians 3:19
Even without harsh words, tone alone can communicate impatience, condescension, or lack of care, making her feel like a burden rather than a cherished partner.
INSTEAD TRY THIS
Speak with kindness and patience even in disagreements. Ask yourself. “Would I want these words said to me?”
FLIRTING OR BEING TOO FRIENDLY WITH OTHER WOMEN
06 Proverbs 6:27-28
Giving excessive compliments prolonged eye contact or having private conversations with another women can make his wife feel like she’s competing for his attention, stirring doubt about where his loyalty truly lies.
INSTEAD TRY THIS
Set clear boundaries with other women. Be mindful of your interactions, ensuring your wife feels secure in your love and commitment.
NOT DEFENDING HER TO OTHERS
07 Genesis 2:24
When his parents or friends criticize her and he stay silent or agrees, she may feel abandoned and undervalued, questioning whether he is truly in her corner.
INSTEAD TRY THIS
Stand up for her in private and public. With others, let them know you value and honor your wife.
KEEPING SECRETS OR HIDING THINGS
08 Proverbs 10:9
Avoiding direct questions or hiding his phone breeds suspicion, making her wonder if he is engaging in something he is engaging in something he doesn’t want her to know about. Even if he isn’t, secrecy creates doubt.
INSTEAD TRY THIS
Be open and honest in all things. Transparency builds trust. Even when difficult, sharing the truth strengthens your bond.
DISMISSING HER FEELINGS OR CONCERNS
09 Ephesians 5:28-29
Dismmising her emotions with phrases like “You’re overthinking it” or “You always do this” make her feel like her concerns don’t matter and that she’s a problem to be managed rather than a person to be understood.
INSTEAD TRY THIS
Validate her feelings. Instead of shutting her down, say, “I hear you, and I want to understand how you feel.”
MAKE HER FEEL LIKE SHE’S NOT A PRIORITY
10 Ephesians 5:25
Constantly choosing work, friends, or hobbies over quality time with her sends the message that she is an afterthought rather than a priority.
INSTEAD TRY THIS
Schedule uninteruped time together Show her through words and actions that she is your priority.
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