
Let Go - Part 8 - Trust is Everything
May 22, 2024
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Let Go - Trust is Everything – Part 8
- Trust can be a funny thing. Many say they trust their spouse, but how many marriages fall into bitterness, anger, frustration, and/or complete destruction because of a failure(s) of trust.
- The truth is that trust can be complicated because everyone has their own version of it.
- Too often, trust is assumed and not properly communicated.
- Trust is often mixed with love.
- You love me so you should trust me - I can love you, but not trust you.
- Simultaneously, you can have relationships in which you trust someone without love.
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The Parable of the Talents:
- A man gives 3 servants a truly special gift. Other than Jesus, your marriage is your greatest gift/asset.
- What are you going to do with it?
- Jesus teaches us to be faithful over what He has given us.
- He says “You were faithful over little”.
- Too often, we only see trustworthiness as staying faithful over the big things- affairs, abuse, secrets, etc.
- Trust is often lost in the little things
- Faithful over little, I will make you ruler over much.
- I view faithfulness and trust as the lanes of a freeway.
- We have lanes to keep order.
- When everyone stays in their proper lane, or even switches while under control, we get where we need to go.
- The lanes are the boundaries!
- Too many relationships, particularly marriages, degrade over time because we don’t have agreed-upon boundaries, or we have gone outside the boundary.
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How do we maintain and/or repair trust?
- Trust must be protected at all costs.
- This goes for marriages, at work with your boss, in raising kids, with friends, etc.…
- Past issues should never be present in punishment.
- We call it “trust issues”.
- Isaiah 43:18 - Do not remember the former things, nor consider the things of old, behold I will do a new thing.
- 2 Thoughts:
- God can’t fully do a new thing in your life if you are hanging onto the past.
- Don’t destroy the new thing God is doing (or has done) by bringing the past into the present.
- Proverbs 3:5 - Trust in the Lord with all your heart…
- Rebuilding trust takes time.
- Quite often, it takes a significant amount of time longer to rebuild trust than it did to tear it down.
- Both partners must have an equal commitment to the relationship.
- Healthy Relationships are not, 50-50, or any other weird percentage breakdown.
- In good relationships, it’s 100%, 100%.
- Repairing trust only happens with real and sincere repentance.
- Remember, repentance is not just saying sorry. Real repentance is saying sorry and changing behavior.
- Here are the steps of repentance:
- Confess the truth
- Reverse the behavior
- Discover how you got to the point you are at
- Express genuine sorrow