Week 1: Finding the One Heartbreak

Getting to Know Me Questions:
* When you think of Romantic Comedy movies, what comes to mind?

* What is it about a good “Rom Com” that makes it so appealing?

Into the Bible Questions:
* What’s something from this week’s teaching that you learned, that stood out, interesting
etc?

* Big Idea: In relationships, we often believe if we find the right person it will make
everything right. So, we ask ourselves, “Is this the right person for me?” Maybe we need
to be asking a different question—a question that shifts our focus from seeking the right
kind of person to becoming the right kind of person.

We talked about 2 Relational Myths:
1. The Right Person Myth – When I find the “right person” everything will be alright.
2. The Promise Myth – All I need for a successful relational future is a promise.
* Which of these myths do you find yourself believing? Or which one did you used to
believe?

* How have these myths impacted your current or past relationships?

* Reword the myths to be more accurate.

Pastor Kirby made 2 statements:
1. If you aren't preparing you won't be prepared.
2. Are you the person, the person you’re looking for is looking for?
* Talk about what this idea look/looked like at different stages of your relationships. Do they
stop mattering after a while? Explain

READ: John 15:1-5
* What does Jesus mean to “remain in the vine”?

* What is the result of doing this, and what would it mean for our current and future
relationships?

READ: John 15:9–10
* Sum up the one command of Jesus? What does that command look like in a romantic
relationship?

* What are 3 things that come to mind when you think about God’s love for you. What would
it look like to extend those same three things to someone else?

Application Questions:
* The kind of person Jesus leads his followers to become is the kind of person we are
looking for and ultimately, want to become. This week, evaluate the type of person you are
looking for and ask yourself, “Am I becoming that type of person?” How can this group
help you remain plugged into “the vine”?