
Talk It Out
The Secret Weapon for Communication
Pastor Daryl Black
March 22-23, 2025
Discernment is
and
.
- “Discernment is not knowing the difference between right and wrong. It is knowing the difference between right and almost right.” - Charles Spurgeon
1 Corinthians 12:8-11 English Standard Version
8For to one is given through the Spirit the utterance of wisdom, and to another the utterance of knowledge according to the same Spirit, 9to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by the one Spirit, 10to another the working of miracles, to another prophecy, to another the ability to distinguish between spirits, to another various kinds of tongues, to another the interpretation of tongues. 11All these are empowered by one and the same Spirit, who apportions to each one individually as he wills.
Hebrews 5:14 English Standard Version
But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their powers of discernment trained by constant practice to distinguish good from evil.
1 Thessalonians 5:21-22 New International Version
21 but test them all; hold on to what is good, 22reject every kind of evil.
Jeremiah 17:9 New International Version
The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?
Discernment helps you
.
Proverbs 18:21 English Standard Version
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.
- Speak when you’re angry and you will make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” – Ambrose Bierce
James 1:26 New International Version
Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.
The Discernment Filter:
- Is it TRUE?
- Is it KIND?
- Is it NECESSARY?
- Is it TIMELY?
Ecclesiastes 3:7b English Standard Version
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
Discernment helps you choose
over
.
Nehemiah 6:3 New King James Version
“I am doing a great work, so that I cannot come down. Why should the work cease while I leave it and go down to you?”
John 5:19 New King James Version
Most assuredly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of Himself, but what He sees the Father do; for whatever He does, the Son also does in like manner.
Exodus 14:14 New International Version
“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”
Discernment gives you the
.
Proverbs 17:28a New Living Translation
Even fools are thought wise when they keep silent.
Proverbs 16:32 The Living Bible
It is better to be slow-tempered than famous; it is better to have self-control than to control an army.
for it.
James 1:5-6 New King James Version
5If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.
God’s Word.
Psalm 119:105 King James Version
Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.
by the Holy Spirit.
John 16:13a The Living Bible
When the Holy Spirit, who is truth, comes, he shall guide you into all truth…
1 Corinthians 2:14-15a The Living Bible
14But the man who isn’t a Christian can’t understand and can’t accept these thoughts from God, which the Holy Spirit teaches us. They sound foolish to him because only those who have the Holy Spirit within them can understand what the Holy Spirit means. Others just can’t take it in. 15But the spiritual man has insight into everything…
it daily.
Hebrews 5:14 English Standard Version
But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their powers of discernment trained by constant practice to distinguish good from evil.
- Lord, give me eyes to see, ears to hear, and a heart that understands Your will. Lead me in wisdom, guide my decisions, and protect me from deception. In Jesus’ name, Amen.




James 1:5-6 New King James Version
5If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.
Question to Ask:
Where do you need discernment the most right now? What relationship do you need the Holy Spirits’ help discerning what to say, when to say it and how to say it?
Application:
Take time every morning to ask the Holy Spirit to give you discernment in your relationships and what you speak that day. Ask for the Holy Spirit to give you wisdom as your read the Bible. Take time before important conversations to ask the Holy Spirit for discernment.
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