Gentleness

1. Diffuses conflict.

A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare. —Proverbs 15:1 (NLT)

2. Disarms critics.

We appeal gently when evil things are said about us. —1 Corinthians 4:13 (NLT)

3. Is persuasive.

…a gentle word can get through to the hard-headed. —Proverbs 25:15 (NCV)

A wise, mature person is known for his understanding. The more pleasant his words, the more persuasive he is. —Proverbs 16:21 (GNT)

4. Earns respect.

A woman of gentle grace gets respect… —Proverbs 11:16 (Msg)

5. Speaks to unbelievers.

Believers shouldn’t curse anyone or be quarrelsome, but they should be gentle and show courtesy to everyone. —Titus 3:2 (GWT)

Grow in gentleness

When someone serves me, be understanding not demanding.

Treat others as you want them to treat you. —Matthew 7:12 (CEV)

2. When someone disagrees with me, be tender without surrender.

…be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. —Ephesians 4:32 (NLT)

3. When someone disappoints you, be gentle not judgmental.

Dear brothers, if a Christian is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help him back onto the right path, remembering that next time it might be one of you who is in the wrong. —Galatians 6:1 (TLB)

Discussion Questions

1. Who has used the “lower your voice” tactic to diffuse conflict? How did it work for you?

2. When you are unfairly criticized and respond with gentleness, how is this an example of strength under control?

3. To practice gentleness, apply this statement, “When someone disagrees with me, be tender without surrender.” In what situations can you anticipate applying this concept during the week?

4. Why does Titus direct us, as Christians, to be gentle and courteous to everyone? Consider this statement, “When someone disappoints me, be gentle, not judgmental.” Discuss examples of what this looks like